For those of us "mainstreamers".....Here's the setting: (and let's not let this devolve into an "it just wouldn't happen" thing.....I know 99% of the time civilians wouldn't be in camp) But you have an army garrison "camp" such as winter quarters or an occupied town/area. Civilian ladies visit the camps (i.e. a mainstream event). What should the soldiers do to maintain the manners and decorum of the day?
If the lady is in close proximity to a particular "mess" of men, should the soldiers always have a vest on if not wearing their uniform jackets?
Should the soldiers always wear their hats when the lady is present? And here's my particular ignorance........when greeting a lady and "tipping" the hat, is the hat just touched, or should it be completely lifted from the head, and, how far?
How should they address the lady? For instance, if it was my wife, would it be appropriate to address her as "Mrs. Stuart" (formal) or the informal "Miss Wanda"? Would it be any different if she was a "laundress" who was in the camp often, or, just an infrequent visitor? How should the other soldiers of our "mess" address her?
Mainstream events sometimes are called "family camping". But be that as it may, we might as well kick it up a notch with the etiquette IMHO. Just what should or shouldn't a man do with ladies in the camp area?
There's been some good links posted, along with the Godey's publications, but the one's I've seen usually cover the "civilian" type settings of dinner manners and such. Lot's of spectaters come through the camps and it would be an added "plus" to have the appropriate decorum whilst they're there.
Any and all help is appreciated.